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Bluesound PULSE CINEMA MINI 2.1 Wireless Multi-Room Streaming Soundbar with Dolby AtmosBluesound PULSE CINEMA MINI 2. 1 Wireless Streaming Soundbar with Dolby Atmos at Vinyl Sound Toronto Canada The PULSE CINEMA MINI is a 2. 1 channel Dolby Atmos wireless streaming soundbar from Bluesound (Pickering, Ontario, Canada), available at Vinyl Sound in Toronto, Canada. Designed for condos, bedrooms, dens, and compact living spaces, the PULSE CINEMA MINI delivers 280 watts of total system power through eight drivers including angled tweeters

Bluesound PULSE CINEMA MINI 2.1 Wireless Streaming Soundbar with Dolby Atmos at Vinyl Sound Toronto Canada

The PULSE CINEMA MINI is a 2.1-channel Dolby Atmos wireless streaming soundbar from Bluesound (Pickering, Ontario, Canada), available at Vinyl Sound in Toronto, Canada. Designed for condos, bedrooms, dens, and compact living spaces, the PULSE CINEMA MINI delivers 280 watts of total system power through eight drivers including angled tweeters and midrange drivers, dual 4-inch woofers, and two 4-inch passive radiators, all driven by Smart DSP amplification with automatic orientation sensing. Dolby Atmos, Dolby TrueHD, Dolby Digital Plus, and Dolby Digital decoding are handled natively via HDMI eARC, and the full BluOS platform is built in for hi-res music streaming up to 24-bit/192kHz and DSD256. AirPlay 2, Spotify Connect, Tidal Connect, Qobuz Connect, and Roon Ready certification are all included, giving the PULSE CINEMA MINI a dual role as a premium compact soundbar and a whole-home hi-res music system.

2.1 Dolby Atmos Sound with Smart DSP and 280W Amplification

Inside its 850mm-wide aluminum and fabric chassis, the PULSE CINEMA MINI houses eight precisely positioned drivers: two 0.75-inch tweeters, two 1.5-inch midrange drivers, two 4-inch woofers, and two 4-inch passive radiators. Angled driver placement widens dispersion for a soundstage that reaches beyond the physical width of the bar, while the dual woofers and passive radiators generate low-frequency extension well suited to both movie effects and music bass lines. Total amplification is 280 watts, with tweeters and midrange drivers each powered at 38 watts and woofers at 65 watts per channel. Dolby Atmos processing virtualizes height effects to create a convincing sense of overhead immersion without the need for physical upfiring drivers, relying instead on advanced DSP to simulate spatial audio from a compact form factor. Smart DSP includes an internal gyroscope that automatically detects whether the soundbar is placed on a tabletop or wall-mounted, and adjusts the sound field accordingly without any manual configuration. IR learning on the front panel allows the soundbar to accept volume and transport commands from any existing TV remote.

BluOS Streaming, Multi-Room Audio, and Hi-Res Playback

The PULSE CINEMA MINI runs BluOS, the proprietary music operating system developed by Lenbrook Industries in Canada that powers all Bluesound players and select NAD and PSB components. Over 23 streaming services and internet radio stations are supported natively, including Spotify Connect with lossless support, Tidal Connect, Qobuz Connect, and Apple AirPlay 2. Roon Ready certification allows the PULSE CINEMA MINI to serve as a bit-perfect Roon endpoint within an existing Roon library system. Hi-res audio playback reaches 24-bit/192kHz for PCM formats with DSD256 and MQA support for the highest-resolution streaming and local file reproduction. Bluetooth 5.2 with two-way aptX Adaptive enables wireless playback from a phone or audio transmission to Bluetooth headphones. The BluOS Controller app on iOS, Android, Windows, or macOS manages playback, zone grouping, and surround configuration. For users wanting to expand into a full 4.1-channel surround system, the PULSE CINEMA MINI wirelessly pairs with a PULSE SUB+ for deeper bass, plus PULSE M or PULSE FLEX speakers as rear channels. A dedicated RCA subwoofer output is also provided for wired third-party subwoofer integration. Smart home control covers Control4, Crestron, RTI, Nice, URC, and Lutron, with Amazon Alexa voice support for hands-free operation.

Design and Installation

The PULSE CINEMA MINI shares the same refined pill-shaped design language as the larger PULSE CINEMA, built around an aluminum chassis wrapped in tonal weave acoustic fabric available in both Black and Tan finishes. At 850 x 74 x 140mm and 5.20kg, it is proportioned for TVs up to approximately 55 inches and fits cleanly on a credenza, media unit, or wall below a screen without obstructing the display. A wall mount bracket, template, M6 bolts, hex tool, HDMI cable, and Ethernet cable are all included in the box, covering both installation methods without additional hardware. The front touch panel provides play/pause, volume up and down, and two programmable preset buttons with LED indicators, and a proximity sensor detects when a user approaches and illuminates the controls. No separate receiver is required: Dolby Atmos decoding, amplification, and streaming are all handled internally in a single compact component.

Key Features

  • 2.1 Dolby Atmos Soundbar: Eight-driver array with angled tweeters and midrange drivers delivers wide dispersion and virtualized Dolby Atmos height effects, supporting Dolby Atmos, Dolby TrueHD, Dolby Digital Plus, and Dolby Digital decoding.
  • 280W Total System Power: Smart DSP amplification drives two tweeters at 38W each, two midrange drivers at 38W each, and two woofers at 65W each for full-range output in compact spaces.
  • Automatic Orientation Sensing: Internal gyroscope detects tabletop or wall-mount placement and automatically optimises DSP processing for the installation without manual setup.
  • HDMI eARC Input: Single-cable connection to any HDMI eARC-equipped TV passes Dolby Atmos, Dolby TrueHD, and lossless audio directly to the soundbar for the highest-quality home theater performance.
  • Hi-Res Audio and DSD256: Supports PCM playback up to 24-bit/192kHz, DSD256, MQA, FLAC, WAV, AIFF, ALAC, and MPEG-4 SLS for audiophile-grade music reproduction in smaller rooms.
  • BluOS Multi-Room Platform: Group the PULSE CINEMA MINI with any other Bluesound player for synchronised whole-home audio using the BluOS Controller app on iOS, Android, Windows, or macOS.
  • Roon Ready Certified: Full Roon endpoint support for bit-perfect, network-based playback within a Roon library system.
  • AirPlay 2, Spotify Connect, Tidal Connect, Qobuz Connect: Native integration with all major high-quality and hi-res audio platforms, including Spotify lossless support.
  • Two-Way Bluetooth 5.2 with aptX Adaptive: Receive audio from a phone or transmit wirelessly to aptX Adaptive-compatible headphones for flexible private listening.
  • Expandable to 4.1 Surround: Add a PULSE SUB+ wireless subwoofer and PULSE M or PULSE FLEX wireless rear speakers for a full 4.1-channel wireless surround system, or connect any wired subwoofer via the RCA output.
  • Two Finish Options: Available in Black and Tan to complement a wider range of interior styles and furniture.
  • Smart Home Integration: Works with Control4, Crestron, RTI, Nice, URC, Lutron, and Amazon Alexa for professional AV installation and residential automation environments.
  • Wall Mount Included: Bracket, template, hardware, HDMI cable, and Ethernet cable are all in the box for a complete out-of-box installation.

Technical Specifications

Speaker Configuration 2.1
Drivers 0.75" (21mm) Tweeter x2; 1.5" (45mm) Midrange x2; 4" (102mm) Woofer x2; 4" (102mm) Passive Radiator x2
Total System Power 280W (38W x2 Tweeter, 38W x2 Midrange, 65W x2 Woofer)
Amplification Smart DSP Amplifier
Distortion THD+N 0.030%
Supported Multi-Channel Formats Dolby Atmos, Dolby TrueHD, Dolby Digital Plus, Dolby Digital, LPCM
Supported Audio Formats MP3, AAC, WMA, WMA-L, OGG, OPUS, FLAC, MQA, ALAC, WAV, AIFF, MPEG-4 SLS
Native Sampling Rates Up to 192kHz
Bit Depth 16-24 bit
DSD Support DSD256
HDMI Input HDMI eARC
Optical Input TOSLINK Optical
Analog Input RCA Stereo
Subwoofer Output RCA x1; Wireless to Bluesound PULSE SUB+
USB Input Type A (FAT32, NTFS formatted) for external storage / local server mode
Ethernet RJ45, Gigabit 1000 Mbps
Wi-Fi 2x Wi-Fi 5 (802.11ac), dual-band
Bluetooth Bluetooth 5.2, aptX Adaptive, Two-Way (transmit and receive)
Headphone Output Bluetooth (aptX Adaptive)
Streaming Services 23+ music services and internet radio
3rd-Party Integrations AirPlay 2, Spotify Connect (including lossless), Tidal Connect, Qobuz Connect, Roon Ready
Voice Control Amazon Alexa Skills
Control System Integrations Control4, Crestron, RTI, Nice, URC, Lutron
App Controller OS iOS, Android, Windows, macOS
Operating System BluOS
Processor ARM Cortex-A53, Quad-Core, 1.8GHz per core
Network File Sharing SMB, up to 200,000 files
Album Art Supported JPG, PNG
Proximity Sensor Yes
IR Learning Yes, front panel IR sensor with remote learning
Finish Black, Tan (aluminum chassis, tonal weave fabric)
Dimensions (Table) W x H x D 850 x 74 x 140mm (33.34 x 2.91 x 5.51 in)
Dimensions (Wall) W x H x D 850 x 140 x 84.5mm (33.34 x 5.51 x 3.33 in)
Weight 5.20kg / 11.46 lbs
SKU / Version P431
Power Supply Universal 2-pin AC (100-240V AC)
Operating Environment 0°C to 40°C
Storage Environment -10°C to 50°C, 20% to 80% relative humidity

Connections at a Glance

  • HDMI eARC input
  • TOSLINK Optical input
  • RCA Analog Stereo input
  • RCA Subwoofer output (wired)
  • Wireless Subwoofer output to Bluesound PULSE SUB+
  • USB Type A input for external storage (FAT32, NTFS)
  • RJ45 Gigabit Ethernet
  • 2x Wi-Fi 5 (802.11ac) dual-band
  • Bluetooth 5.2 aptX Adaptive (two-way)
  • Universal AC power input (100-240V)

What's in the Box

  • Bluesound PULSE CINEMA MINI Soundbar
  • 120V AC Power Cord
  • 230V AC Power Cord
  • Ethernet Cable
  • HDMI Cable
  • Wall Mount Bracket
  • Wall Mount Template
  • Wall Mount M6 Bolt x2
  • Wall Mount Hex Tool
  • Safety and Warranty Guide
  • Quick Setup Guide

Awards and Critical Recognition

  • 9/10 Score, AVForums, February 2026: "highly proficient at both movie and music duties. The sound is mature, weighty and convincing, and the design and build are exemplary."
  • Reviewed by Trusted Reviews, March 2026: "excels at creating a wide and immersive soundstage"
  • Reviewed by T3, 2026: Recommended for compact spaces as a direct competitor to the Sonos Beam

Frequently Asked Questions

What is the Bluesound PULSE CINEMA MINI?

The Bluesound PULSE CINEMA MINI is a compact 2.1-channel Dolby Atmos wireless streaming soundbar with 280 watts of total power and eight drivers, designed for condos, bedrooms, dens, and smaller living spaces. It is manufactured by Bluesound, a division of Lenbrook Industries based in Ontario, Canada. The PULSE CINEMA MINI decodes Dolby Atmos, Dolby TrueHD, Dolby Digital Plus, and Dolby Digital natively via HDMI eARC, and runs the BluOS platform for hi-res music streaming up to 24-bit/192kHz and DSD256 playback, requiring no separate AV receiver.

How does the Bluesound PULSE CINEMA MINI compare to the Sonos Beam Gen 2?

The Bluesound PULSE CINEMA MINI and the Sonos Beam Gen 2 both target compact Dolby Atmos soundbars for smaller rooms, but they differ meaningfully in audiophile capability and expandability. The PULSE CINEMA MINI delivers 280 watts of total amplification across eight drivers with dedicated woofers and passive radiators for genuine low-frequency output, while the Sonos Beam Gen 2 relies more heavily on DSP bass management from a smaller driver complement. The PULSE CINEMA MINI supports native hi-res streaming up to 24-bit/192kHz, DSD256, Tidal Connect, Qobuz Connect, and Roon Ready certification, none of which are available on the Sonos Beam Gen 2. It also expands into a full 4.1-channel wireless surround system using PULSE M or PULSE FLEX rear speakers and the PULSE SUB+, with deeper smart home integration through Control4, Crestron, and RTI. The Sonos ecosystem offers broader out-of-the-box speaker compatibility, while the PULSE CINEMA MINI is the stronger choice for hi-res music listening and audiophile-grade home theater.

Can the PULSE CINEMA MINI play hi-res music from Tidal or Qobuz?

Yes, the PULSE CINEMA MINI is a full BluOS hi-res music streaming component in addition to being a home theater soundbar. It connects natively to Tidal Connect and Qobuz Connect for lossless and hi-res audio delivery up to 24-bit/192kHz, with DSD256 and MQA playback also supported. Spotify Connect with lossless support, Apple AirPlay 2, and over 23 streaming services are accessible through the BluOS Controller app. Roon Ready certification enables bit-perfect Roon endpoint operation, and local file playback from a USB drive or SMB network share is supported for libraries of up to 200,000 files.

What is the difference between the PULSE CINEMA MINI and the PULSE CINEMA?

The PULSE CINEMA MINI is the compact sibling of the PULSE CINEMA, sharing the same BluOS platform, Dolby Atmos decoding, streaming service support, and Smart DSP orientation sensing, but differing in size, driver count, power, and Atmos delivery method. The PULSE CINEMA is a 3.2.2 soundbar with 16 drivers and 500 watts, featuring physical upfiring drivers for genuine overhead Atmos height effects, and is sized at 1200mm wide for TVs 55 inches and larger. The PULSE CINEMA MINI is a 2.1 soundbar with eight drivers and 280 watts, virtualizing Atmos height effects through DSP, and measures 850mm wide for smaller rooms and TVs. The PULSE CINEMA also expands to a full 5.1.2 surround configuration, while the PULSE CINEMA MINI supports up to a 4.1 wireless setup.

Does the PULSE CINEMA MINI automatically adjust for wall mounting?

Yes, the PULSE CINEMA MINI includes an internal gyroscope that automatically detects whether it is placed on a tabletop or mounted on a wall. Once the orientation is confirmed, the Smart DSP engine adjusts driver timing, audio processing, and the sound field to optimise performance for that specific placement. Wall mounting hardware including a bracket, template, M6 bolts, and hex tool are included in the box, and no additional configuration in the BluOS app is required to activate the orientation-aware DSP adjustment.

Can I expand the PULSE CINEMA MINI into a surround sound system?

Yes, the PULSE CINEMA MINI supports wireless surround expansion through the BluOS platform. Adding a pair of Bluesound PULSE M or PULSE FLEX wireless speakers as rear channels and a PULSE SUB+ wireless subwoofer creates a full 4.1-channel wireless home theater system managed entirely through the BluOS Controller app. A wired subwoofer can also be connected via the dedicated RCA output for users who prefer a cabled bass solution with any third-party subwoofer.

Does the PULSE CINEMA MINI come in different colours?

Yes, the Bluesound PULSE CINEMA MINI is available in both Black and Tan finishes. Both options feature the same pill-shaped aluminum chassis wrapped in tonal weave acoustic fabric, allowing the soundbar to blend into a wider range of interior styles and furniture colours. The two-finish option is a distinction from the larger PULSE CINEMA, which is available in Black only.

Where can I buy the Bluesound PULSE CINEMA MINI in Toronto or Canada?

The Bluesound PULSE CINEMA MINI is available at Vinyl Sound, an authorised Bluesound dealer in Toronto, Canada. Vinyl Sound carries the full Bluesound home theater and multi-room audio lineup, including the PULSE CINEMA, PULSE SUB+, PULSE M, and PULSE FLEX for surround expansion. Customers across Canada can purchase through Vinyl Sound's online store with nationwide shipping available.

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Profound - highly recommend this book to EVERYBODY who has or wants to have a significant other. The different love languages really resonates with me and could save many relationships. This book initially a gift to me from my childhood best friend. It practically saved her marriage. I have since read it and purchased it for other loved ones. Dr. Chapman explains how important it is for couples to understand how each other and themselves both give and receive love. It is possible for couples to truly love each other, but to truly feel unloved because they don’t think the same about giving and receiving love. Everybody generally has their own primary love languages for receiving love and giving love. It may be the same for giving/receiving, and it may be different. If a husband does not meet the primary love language of his wife, she might not sense his true feelings and start to be unsatisfied with their relationship. Understanding your spouse’s love language and acting accordingly will fill their “Love Tank”. The “Love Tank” analogy is a great metaphor for describing how loved someone feels. Meeting people’s primary love language consistently will fill up their love tank and help them feel loved like they need. But if a spouse fails to meet this primary love language, it might leave their “Love Tank” empty, which leads to feelings of being unloved and issues in relationships. Secondary languages are also important, so it's critical to reflect and understand your own priorities and that of your spouses. The five love languages are: 1. Words of Affirmation: If this is your love language, you feel most cared for when your partner is open and expressive in telling you how wonderful they think you are, how much they appreciate you, etc. 2. Acts of Service: If your partner offering to watch the kids so you can go to the gym (or relieving you of some other task) gets your heart going, then this is your love language. 3. Affection: This love language is just as it sounds. A warm hug, a kiss, touch, and sexual intimacy make you feel most loved when this is your love language. 4. Quality Time: This love language is about being together, fully present and engaged in the activity at hand, no matter how trivial. 5. Gifts: Your partner taking the time to give you a gift can make you feel appreciated.
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Really, it did. Simple and profound, a quick read. We all want to express love in the form that we want it for ourselves which is a recipe for disaster and completely arbitrary for your partner however well meaning that is. My wife kept saying that she didn't feel loved in spite of my significant attempts.... Now I know why. For instance saying "I love you" had absolutely no impact on her because her "words of affirmation" category is zero (absent). But she has a high need for physical touch (hooray for me because that is a big match). That insight lead to further research into tantric sex and now I'm having the best sex of my life and more frequently than when we were younger (amazing on both counts). The key was finally understanding what she needed so that she could feel "filled up" In the customized way that she needed. The examples are a bit dated, but still conceptually valid. For her the "acts of service" wasn't washing the dishes, but acts of targeted thoughtfulness that took some time to properly distinguish. I took it on to do something appropriately thoughtful for her every single day since she tested high in that category.... That was a grand slam home run over time. We also took a course in the enneagram (highly insightful personality typing) about the same time that dovetailed nicely. She was a type 2 that wants to make everyone around her happy, everyone except herself of course; she gives and gives until she is depleted and then becomes resentful. For her to be able to state what she wants and needs remains a huge struggle for her but she expects me to just know... A paradox for sure, but now I understand that by keeping her "filled up" overcomes that sense of depletion. (The enneagram is also highly recommended to know yourself and those around you). She takes care of those round her and she needed someone to do that for her; a huge insight. The punch line is that I now get back what I need with a new passion that feels more like an ongoing honeymoon. Priceless. ;-)
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As of the time I am writing this review 368 out of 398 reviewers gave this book a 4 or 5 star rating - that's 92% "I liked it" and "I loved it" ratings. With these many positive reviews there are some critical reviews as well that are worth reading to get a balanced overall review - there may actually be more (and likely are more) than 5 love languages or categories. The author has a significant amount of knowledge and experience regarding married couples and it is certainly worth considering his input. What will make the information in this book the most beneficial is incorporating it with personal experience, and this subject will likely be a "work in progress" project with a focus on getting better everyday to result in a lasting, happy, and fulfilling marital arrangement. My favorite review is "Learning to Speak, December 23, 2010" where the reviewer's review could have been a superb foreword for this book. May I suggest reading it as in my opinion it is brief, clear, and simple. If you have time consider reading the other reviews and comments too. Of course, some may not agree or totally agree with this book's author; however, the subject of marriage is simple, yet complexed - and even compounding at times. In my opinion this is one of the better books on this subject. There is some good material here making it worth considering reading it. This book did stimulate my thinking on the different viewpoints in marriage and if you'd like to read my comments on this marriage subject contine, if not please feel free to move on. I am just hoping that some of these thoughts may help some considering marriage or who are already married. Some believe that men and women basically use different parts of their brains. Often heard are: "The left brain thinks, the right brain feels." "The left brain analyzes, the right brain intuits." "The left brain is logical, the right brain is emotional." Likely, our thinking, feeling, and loving are more complex than these simple statements; yet, at least on occasion (likely more often) men and women think and feel differently and express themselves differently - the author of this book identifies, categorizes, and classifies love into five languages. I would add one additional language, which is the ability to sincerely and promptly say "I'm sorry" from one's heart. From my 45+ years of marriage and from what I have learned from many others, a successful, lasting, and happy marriage involves two great forgivers and apologizers. In my three and a half decades of managing people I have found that those who never or almost never say "I'm sorry" have difficulties with their working and personal relationships. A husband and a wife differ to varying degrees about how they both think and feel about things, and this is in harmony with how the Creator said regarding Adam that He was going to make a helper for him, as a complement of him (not an identical twin of him - she was made different in a good way). A complement completes, perhaps making something just right. A husband and wife will benefit from loving each other, especially as the other person wants and needs to be loved. Couple this with deep respect and you hold the two keys to a successful, lasting, and happy marriage and family life - Love and Respect. Hopefully adding this thought will help your loving and respectful marriage grow more each and every day: "I love you more today than yesterday, but only half as much as tomorrow." And one additional thought: "It is more beneficial for me to be respectful and loving in all that I do, than for me to be loved (something I very much want)." Every marriage has the potential to be successful, lasting, and happy, especially using the two keys of "Love" and "Respect." Your marriage can be a most precious, valuable, and wonderful gift by using these two keys with sincerity and heartfelt caring; and, never let pride, the childish silent treatment, or other unloving disrespectful traits mar your treasured marriage! A good "PRIDE" antidote expressed before the end of the day: "I'm sorry - I was mistaken - How can I make it up to you? - I'll do my best to be better - Will you please forgive me?" A good "CHILDISH SILENT TREATMENT" antidote as soon as possible: Rescue the loving, caring, and respect adult within you. "Whining" and "I won't talk to you" are childish - they rarely worked in childhood and have no place among true adults. "Scolding" and "Lecturing" is easily blocked out. The best communications are loving, caring, and respectful adult expressions coupled with a big dose of attentive listening and understanding. In ballroom dancing it has been said that "it takes two to tango," and "it takes one to lead." Many have found a successful, permanent, and happy marriage includes three - the loving husband, the respectful wife, and the Creator and Author of marriage (who perfectly knows what's best). A good question to ask yourself at the beginning of each day: "What will I do today that shows I both love and respect my spouse?" TIP: While certainly one positive act or action daily is a good start, many are even better and will bring more benefits. ADDITIONAL BENEFICIAL READING: "One Minute for Myself [Yourself]: How to Manage Your Most Valuable Asset" by Spencer Johnson, MD - while it is good to have a great relationship with your spouse; it is essential to have a good relationship with yourself, especially if your goal is to love your neighbor as yourself. Keep in mind if this is one of your goals that your closest neighbor is your spouse. Good relationships with ourselves and others I believe is what our true success in life is all about. My thought is that one needs a good relationship with oneself first in order to have good relationships with others - and it is wise to pursue "self-respect" by being respectful of yourself and all others. I like the thought of "self-respect" rather than "self-esteem" because it is easily possible to think too much of oneself; better to just focus on being respectful, caring, loving, and having proper self-respect. ADDENDUM: One of best ways to tell your spouse "I Love You" is to say "I love you just the way you are." The principle here is if you want to be accepted in any relationship you should give your acceptance first. How many of us really want someone to relentlessly badger us to change this or change that about ourselves. Change in itself can be difficult, but that is another subject to consider.
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"The object of love is not getting something you want, but doing something for the well-being of the one you love." Statements like this and many others are the treasures that fill this book. This book is a must read for anyone who is married or even considering it. It is full of real life accounts from people who had problems in their marriage, but eventually overcame them. These stories give not only ideas on what to do, but inspiration and desire to build a strong marriage. The 5 Love Languages are something Gary Chapman came up with after years of marriage counseling. He didn't come up with these out of thin air, he had so many experiences with relationships and discovered common love patterns among spouses. He concludes that there are 5 different languages of love that people speak. A love language is the way a person feels love from another. That could be through acts of service, or physical touch. Discovering the way your spouse feels love will save a relationship. I thought to myself, "Ok, the 5 love languages are listed on the back cover; what's the point of reading it now?" But after reading in depth about each love language my eyes have been opened on exactly what I must do to accommodate my wife's love language. The book gives so many examples; at least one of them is sure to be your case. If you didn't realize what you were doing wrong, the examples will spark that within you. I took notes and underlined many passages. At the end of each chapter he asks an open ended question to make you think about how you can apply what was discussed. This book is the service manual for any marriage. Study and apply what you read and I can assure you a full "love tank" leading to a better marriage.
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